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A way to express what's hot, and what's not, in SM.

I've made a sm-matchmaker, in MSExcel, which can guide you into discovering a few things about yourself and your partner. If you're able to convert this spreadsheet into something which will run on a website, enabling the visitors to insert their values, and get a calculation as a result of this, I'd very much love to be hearing from you.
You can download the spreadsheet here:

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Basically the idea should be rather self-explanatory, but I'll connect a few comments to it, just the same

  1. The chart you see here, is my personal chart...
  2. It would be obvious, to make two charts, in order to express experience and preferences as a Sadist, and as a masochist, but now I've just made one chart, to explain the general idea.
  3. The experience-line, may require an explanation, and you'll get it here:
  1. ZERO = a thing, that I know is in existence, but with which I have absolutely no experience
  2. ½ = something, that I know of, and have read about, but never tried.
  3. 1 = something, I have tried once or twice
  4. 2 = something I've tried a few times
  5. - and so on, until ...
  6. 6 = something that I know enough about, and have sufficient experience with, to be able to teach others.
  7. 7-8 = genuine expert levels... I only know of one person, being able to put a marking there, and that's Kurokame !
  1. The Hot/Not graduation is simply an expression of how much something turns me on/off.. Translation is:
  1. (above 0) "Dejligt" = "Nice" / "Fedt" = "Great" / "Supert" = "Super" / "Ekstase" = "Ecstasy"
  2. (below 0) "Ikke spændende" = "Not interesting" / "Nej tak" = "No thank you" / "Absolut ikke" = "Absolutely not" / "Rædsel" = "Sheer terror(panic)"
  1. The placings "in the field" comes from, a/ how I feel about something, and b/ how much experience I've got wit something
    An example could be     "Genital bondage", which I think is Super, and which I have a rater big experience with (4).
    Another example could be "Needles", which would scare me across the panic-limit, if a Dom would threaten, to expose me to needle torture, ( let alone the reaction if the Dom would actually try to do it) -which I (for obvious reasons) have no experience with - although I know a little about it.

You may eventually use this list for inspiration:

 


Abrasion


Age play


Anal sex


Anal plugs (small)


Anal plugs (large)


Anal plug (public, under clothes)


Animal roles


Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)


Aromas


Asphyxiation


Auctioned for charity


Ball stretching


Bathroom use control


Beastiality


Beating (soft)


Beating (hard)


Blindfolds


Being serviced (sexual)


Being bitten


Boot worship


Bondage (light)


Bondage (heavy)


Bondage (multi-day)


Bondage (public, under clothing)


Branding


Breast/chest bondage


Breast whipping


Breath control


Brown showers (scat)


Bruises


Cages (locked inside of)


Caning


Castration fantasy


Catheterization


Cattle prod (electrical toy)


Cells/Closets (locked inside of)


Chains


Chamber-pot use


Chastity belts (short term)


Chastity belts (multi-day)


Chauffeuring (driving)


Choking


Chores (domestic service)


Clothespins


Cock rings/straps


Cock worship


Collars (worn in private)


Collars (worn in public)


Competitions (with other Subs)


Corsets (wearing casually)


Corsets (trained waist reduction)


Cross-dressing


Cuffs (leather)


Cuffs (metal)


Cutting


Diapers (wearing)


Diapers (wetting)


Diapers (soiling)


Dilation


Dildos


Double penetration


Electricity (Anden)


Electricity (E-Stim)


Enemas (for cleansing)


Enemas (retention/punishment)


Enforced chastity


Erotic dance (for audience)


Examinations (physical)


Exercise (forced/required)


Exhibitionism (friends)


Exhibitionism (strangers)


Eye contact restrictions


Face slapping


Fantasy abandonment


Fantasy rape


Fantasy gang-rape


Fear (being scared)


Fisting (anal)


Fisting (vaginal)


Flame play


Following orders


Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...)


Foot worship


Forced bedwetting


Forced dressing


Forced eating


Forced homosexuality


Forced heterosexuality


Forced masturbation


Forced nudity (private)


Forced nudity (around others)


Forced servitude


Forced smoking


Full head hoods


Gags (cloth)


Gags (inflatable)


Gags (phallic)


Gags (rubber)


Gags (tape)


Gas masks


Gates of Hell (male)


Genital sex


Given away to another Dom (temp)


Given away to another Dom (perm)


Golden showers


Gun play


Hairbrush spankings


Hair pulling


Hand jobs (giving)


Hand jobs (receiving)


Harems (serving w/other subs)


Harnessing (leather)


Harnessing (rope)


Having food chosen for you


Having clothing chosen for you


Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)


Head (recv fellatio/cunnilingus)


High heel wearing


High heel worship


Homage with tongue (non-sexual)


Hoods


Hot oils (on genitals)


Hot waxing


Housework (doing)


Human puppy dog


Humiliation (private)


Humiliation (public)


Hypnotism


Ice cubes


Immobilization


Infantilism


Initiation rites


Injections


Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage


Interrogations


Kidnapping


Kneeling


Knife play


Leather clothing


Leather restraints


Lectures for misbehaviour


Licking (non-sexual)


Lingerie (wearing)


Manacles & Irons


Manicures (giving)


Massage (giving)


Massage (receiving)


Medical scenes


Modelling for erotic photos


Mouth bits


Mummification


Name change (for scene)


Name change (legal, permanent)


Nipple clamps


Nipple rings (piercings)


Nipple play/"torture"


Nipple weights


Oral/anal play (rimming)


Over-the-knee spanking


Orgasm denial


Orgasm control


Outdoor scenes


Outdoor sex


Pain (mild)


Pain (medium)


Pain (severe)


Persona training (in scene)


Personality modification (RL)


Phone sex (serving Dom)


Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)


Phone sex (commercial provider)


Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)


Piercing (permanent)


Plastic surgery


Prison scenes


Prostitution (public pretense)


Prostitution (actual)


Pony slave


Public exposure


Punishment Scene


Pussy/cock whipping


Pussy worship


Riding crops


Riding the "horse" (crotch torture)


Rituals


Religious scenes


Restrictive rules on behavior


Rubber/latex clothing


Rope body harness


Saran wrapping


Scarification


Scratching - getting


Scratching - giving


Sensory deprivation


Serving


Serving as art


Serving as ashtray


Serving as furniture


Serving as a maid


Serving as toilet (urine)


Serving as toilet (faeces)


Serving as waitress/waiter


Serving orally (sexual)


Serving other doms (supervised)


Serving other doms (unsupervised)


Sexual deprivation (short term)


Sexual deprivation (long term)


Shaving (body hair)


Shaving (genital hair)


Shaving (head hair)


Skinny-dipping


Sleep deprivation


Sleepsacks


Slutty clothing (private)


Slutty clothing (public)


Spandex clothing


Spanking


Speech restrictions (when, what)


Speculums (Anal)


Speculums (vaginal)


Spitting


Spreader bars


Standing in corner


Stocks


Straight jackets


Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)


Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)


Strap-on-dildos (wearing)


Strapping (full body beating)


Suspension (upright)


Suspension (inverted)


Suspension (horizontal)


Supplying new partners for Dom


Swallowing feces


Swallowing semen


Swallowing urine


Swapping (with one other couple)


Swinging (multiple couples)


Tampon Training (in ass)


Tattooing


Teasing


TENS Unit (electrical toy)


Thumbcuffs (metal)


Tickling


Triple penetration


Urethral Sounds (metal rods)


Uniforms


Including others


Vaginal dildo


Verbal humiliation


Vibrator on genitals


Violet Wand (electrical toy)


Voyeurism (watching others)


Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)


Video (watching others)


Video (recordings of you)


Water torture


Waxing (hair removal)


Wearing symbolic jewellery


Weight gain (forced)


Weight loss (forced)


Whipping


Wooden paddles


Wrestling

The list is build, by Tammad Rimilia